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Short & Sweet - Text Message Q&A #388


Etrog Jam
Q: What is the source that Etrog jam helps a woman to have an easy delivery?
A: There is no ancient source.

Minhag of Divorced Woman
Q: I am divorced.  Should I continue the customs of my former husband or return to the customs of my father?
A: If you do not have older children, return to your father's customs.  If you have older children and they are used to your former husband's customs, you should continue to perform them so there is uniformity in your house.

Dispute over Wig
Q: I cover my hair with a wig but my husband does not like it.  What should I do?
A: He should wear what he wants, and you should not give him orders about his dress, and you should dress the way you want, and he should not give you orders about your dress.
A: But he claims that I do not understand him?
A: Indeed, and he does not understand you.  Perhaps you two should go to marriage counseling, and we hope that he will be able to understand what every 10 year old child understands, i.e. to be objective.

Siyum Ha-Shas
Q: We are planning to attend the Siyum Ha-Shas at Binyanei Ha-Uma in Yerushalayim, and then go and eat in a restaurant.  Is that considered a Seudat Mitzvah?
A: Yes.  It is possible to have a Seudah for a Siyum in another place.  Shut Maharam Brisk 1:133.

Cohanim's Shoes
Q: When Cohanim take off their shoes for Birkat Cohanim, should they put them under their chairs or leave them outside the sanctuary?
A: Most important is that they are not seen.

Calling from Different Phone Number
Q: I keep calling someone but they do not pick up for me.  Can I call them from a different number?
A: Genivat Da'at (deception).

Praising Student in Front of the Class
Q: Is it permissible for me to praise a student in front of the class for learning well?
A: One needs to be very careful, since it can cause the weaker students to feel frustrated.

Non-Hebrew Words in Rashi
Q: Do the non-Hebrew words in Rashi have the same holiness as the Hebrew words?
A: They have similar holiness as the Aramaic translation of Onkelos but a little less since Onkelos was given at Mt. Sinai (Ha-Rav Chaneh Halberstan, Av Beit Din Kalashitz, said that his holy grandfather, the Shinova Rav, was very particular to pronounce the non-Hebrew words when learning Rashi, since they have the same level of holiness as the rest of Rashi.  And if he heard someone skip over those words, he would tell them to go back and pronounce them.  In the book "Divrei Chaneh Ha-Shalem" p. 453.  And see the book "Otzar Lazei Rashi" which explains all of the non-Hebrew words in Rashi).

Shul in Bomb Shelter
Q: If we have a Shul in the bomb shelter of our building, does it have the holiness of a Shul?
A: No.  It is still a bomb shelter.