Short & Sweet - Text Message Q&A #348

Map of Eretz Yisrael in the Bathroom
Q: Is it permissible to hang a map of Eretz Yisrael in the bathroom?
A: Yes, as long as one does not think about Torah when looking at it.
Q: But Eretz Yisrael is holy?!
A: Correct.  But it is even permissible to have bathrooms in Eretz Yisrael, and it is holier than a map.

Time of Wedding
Q: Is it permissible to delay the time written on the wedding invitation in order to have a longer Kabalat Panim, pictures, etc.?
A: Certainly not.  One is obligated to have the wedding at the time written on the invitation.  One should no begin their marriage with a lie!  (It once happened that Ha-Rav Shmuel Ha-Levi Wosner, the author of Shut Shevet Ha-Levi, traveled from Bnai Brak to Yerushalayim to serve as Sandak at a Brit Milah.  They had agreed on a time for the Brit Milah, and Rav Wosner, as he usually did, was particular to arrive early.  The Mohel, however, did not arrive on time.  After waiting a while, Rav Wosner told the father of the baby: "There is no choice, I am returning to Bnai Brak now.  Please take someone else as the Sandak.  My time is precious, and this is the first day of the Zman and I want to be in the Yeshiva".  The father said that the Mohel is an expert and has many Britot, and called to say that he was delayed but is already on his way.  Rav Wosner replied: "Tell the Mohel that not coming on time involves the transgression of 'Do not lie' and if the time of the Brit Milah is set after discussing it with the Mohel, he must arrange his schedule so that he arrives on time, does not deceive others and does not violate the transgression of lying!"  And he added: "Regardless, I am hurrying back to Bnai Brak."  In the meanwhile, the mother's father, who was a grandson of the Yismach Moshe, approached and showed Rav Wosner the Kiddush cup of the Yismach Moshe.  Rav Wosner's face glowed and he asked how he inherited it, checked the size and asked if his grandfather used it for Kiddush, etc.  The Mohel then arrived and apologized to Rav Wosner, but Rav Wosner said to him: "Time is time!  Time is something very precious to me!", and he served as Sandak.  Rav Rabbanan, pp. 229-230).

Chevra Kadisha in Every Community
Q: Should there be a Chevra Kadisha in every community, or is it enough for there to be one in larger communities?
A: The custom in every generation and every location is for there to be a Chevra Kadisha in every community.  See Neta'ei Gavriel (Avelut Volume 1 42:1).

Changing Name Order
Q: My name is Leah Iris.  A Rav told me to change the order to Iris Leah.  Do I need to do so only on my Teudat Zehut (Israeli I.D. card) or should my father mention it in a Mi She-Berach in Shul when he receives an Aliyah?
A: 1. Ask the Rav who said so.  2. There is absolutely no need to change the order.  There is no difference.

Respecting Politicians
Q: How should we relate to politicians who do both good and bad things?
A: The Rambam writes that if the majority of one's actions are Mitzvot, a person is righteous, if the majority of one's actions are transgressions, he is wicked (Hilchot Teshuvah Chapter 3).  Either way, one obviously receives reward for the Mitzvot and is punished for the transgressions.

Doctor who Does Not Succeed
Q: Our Sages say that Hashem causes good to be brought about through the agency of righteous people and bad to be brought about through the agency of evil people (Shabbat 32a).  If a doctor's patient dies, isn't this a sign that he is evil?
A: No!  He did not perform a transgression, but rather the great Mitzvah of trying to heal another person.  It is not dependent on him if he will succeed.  It is Hashem's decision.  See Ramban, Torat Ha-Adam, Sha'ar Ha-Sakanah.  

Kitzur Shulchan Aruch Saves Questions
Q: Does it bother Ha-Rav that I send him so many questions?
A: No.  But almost all of your questions are found in basic Halachah books like the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch.  There are also pocket versions.  It is better to look there.  Once on Erev Pesach when a myriad of people came to ask questions of Ha-Rav Shmuel Ha-Levi Wosner, author of Shut Shevet Ha-Levi, he said: "If the questioners would learn even the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, 80% of the questions here would not need to be asked" (Rav Rabanan, p. 402).

Child Bothering During Shemoneh Esrei
Q: If a young child is making noise in the middle of the Shemoneh Esrei, and he cannot be calmed down, what should one do?

A: His father should take him outside in the middle of the Shemoneh Esrei (Ha-Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, Aliba De-Hilchata #12, p. 3.  And see the exchange of letters between Rav Aviner and Ha-Rav Avraham Dov Auerbach, Rav of Tiveriah, about this issue in Shut She'eilat Shlomo 1:53 and Shut Hagrad"a p. 26).