Short & Sweet - Text Message Q&A #320

Taking a Book from a Beit Midrash
Q: Is it permissible to take a book from a Beit Midrash for a few hours in order to learn from it?
A: Only with the Gabbai's permission.

Giving Tzedakah without Offending
Q: How can I give money to a family member who is in a bad financial state without offending him?
A: Tell him that it is a loan, and then forget about it.

Children's Book about Noach
Q: There is a children's book which depicts Noach as a good and kind grandpa.  Is there a problem with it?
A: Yes.  One needs to have awe of holiness towards him: He was a righteous man who walked with G-d (Bereshit 6:9.  And see Ha-Rav's book on learning Tanach properly "Torat Emet").

Sleeping in a House Where Someone Died
Q: Is it true that if someone sleeps in a house where someone died, even for one night after the Shiva, he must continue to sleep there during the entire Sheloshim?
A: No.

Milk and Fish in One Oven
Q: What is the Halachah if one cooked meat and fish in the oven at the same time but on different trays?
A: If one did not drip on the other, it is, after the fact, Kosher.  Aruch Hashulchan (Yoreh Deah 116:10).

List of Donors
Q: Is it permissible for an organization to pass along a list of donors to others?
A: Our Rabbis forbade one from relating that he received good "Hachnasat Orchim" (hospitality) lest others come to the person who provided it.  It is praising another in a loud voice.  Arachin 17a.  Nonetheless, Ha-Rav Moshe Feinstein allows it since the donor always has the option to refuse.  There is however an additional problem: perhaps the donor does not want one to tell others that he donated to that organization.  One thus violates: "Gossipers go around revealing secrets" (Mishlei 11:13) or violating one's trust, i.e. "Genevat Da'at" (deception) (Shut Igrot Moshe, Yoreh Deah 3:95).

Pesukei De-Zimra Out Loud
Q: Is there worth in reciting Pesukei De-Zimra out loud?
A: Certainly.  This aids one to have proper intent.  Sefer Chasidim #18.  But one should obviously not exaggerate and should not bother others.  Piskei Teshuvot 51:70.

Immersing in the Dead Sea
Q: Is it permissible to immerse in the Dead Sea as a Mikveh?

A: It is dangerous to immerse there.