Short & Sweet - Text Message Q&A #232

Growing a Beard

Q: I want to grow a beard but my mother is opposed.  What should I do?

A: You should grow it, and appease her by telling her that you want to marry a woman who wants a husband with a beard (Ha-Rav Chaim Kanievski related that the Chafetz Chaim also gave the same advice, and the mother of the man agreed that he should grow a beard.  Minchat Todah p. 89).


Cohain Leaving Eretz Yisrael

Q: Is there more of a prohibition for a Cohain to leave Eretz Yisrael for the impurity of the lands outside of Israel than the general prohibition of leaving Eretz Yisrael?

A: Yes (And this is the opinion of Ha-Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach.  Halichot Shlomo – Tefillah, Chap. 10 note #12.  Unlike the opinion of Va-Yoel Moshe, Maamar Yishuv Eretz Yisrael, Chap. 132 #11 and Shut Teshuvot Ve-Hanhagot 2:565).


Kol Isha

Q: Why is it written in the Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chaim 75:3) that it is forbidden to hear a woman sing during Keriat Shema, it is always forbidden to hear a woman sing?

A: Then it is forbidden to even hear your wife sing (And the Rama explains so there).


Slap for Rav Ovadiah's Honor

Q: Is it permissible for me to give someone a slap who makes fun of Rav Ovadiah?

A: No.  But admonish him.


Shul in Name of Yitzchak Rabin

Q: Is there a problem to Daven in a Shul named in memory of Yitzchak Rabin?

A: There is certainly no problem.  That is a strange question.


Adult Films

Q: A Rabbi said that one who watches adult films on the internet is evil.  Is this true to such an extent?

A: Certainly, since these films are made by taking advantage of poor and down-cast women's weaknesses, forcing them, raping them and destroying them.  One who is a partner to wickedness is evil.


Finds a More Beautiful Woman

Q: Rabbi Akiva says that if one finds a woman more beautiful than his wife, he is permitted to get a divorce.  Gittin 90a.  This is difficult to understand.

A: If one finds a woman more beautiful than his wife, it is a sign that the marriage is in poor condition.


Boycotting Israel

Q: What should we do if European countries boycott Israeli products?

A: Let's see how they get along without the technological advances we invented in cell phone, computers and medical equipment.


Taking Counsel with One's Wife

Q: Why did Yaakov Avinu take counsel with Rachel and Leah about whether or not they should return to Israel, when Hashem explicitly commanded him to do so?

 A: One should not give his wife orders but include her respectfully in the decision.  Commentary of the Shelah ibid.



Q: I dress extremely modestly but every time a hair pops out of my head-scarf, my husband points it out.  I am insulted and I tell him.  He then gives me Mussar.  What should I do?

A: Tell him you are no longer a teenager in high school.  And in any case, not all religious high schools point out to the girls when something needs improvement.  If need be, speak to my wife.