Shut SMS #79

Rabbi Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Text Message Questions
Q: Why do people ask such stupid text message questions?
A: We should not judge one who asks a question, since in his wholeness and pure faith he asks what is bothering him. It is not appropriate to ridicule someone, and one who mocks him in a cynical manner is revealing much about himself.

Charedim or Religious Zionists
Q: What makes us different from the Charedim?
A: We are Charedim, and we have an extra Klal Yisrael level.
Q: Why do most Baalei Teshuvah become Charedim?
A: That is incorrect, a mistaken impression.
Q: Why are so many Religious Zionists willing to compromise?
A: In truth, we should not compromise, but be Charedi and more.

Past Girlfriend
Q: I broke up with my girl friend since we were not a good match. How should I relate to her if she calls?
A: Be polite.

Music for a Mourner
Q: May a mother who is in mourning put on music for her children to listen to?
A: Yes, but she should not listen (Pesachim 25b).

Mayim Achronim
Q: Is a woman obligated to wash Mayim Achronim? Why?
A: She is obligated in order to recite the blessing after eating with clean hands (Shut She'eilat 1:111).

Q: May a woman who is engaged enter a cemetery?
A: Yes, unless the custom of her community is otherwise.

Pants for a Girl
Q: May a girl wear pants which belonged to her brother under her skirt on a fieldtrip?
A: Yes (Shut She'eilat Shlomo 2:323).

Witnesses for a Loan
Q: When one gives a loan, is there a need for two witnesses, one witness or just a document?
A: Is it sufficient to write a document (Aruch Ha-Shulchan, Choshen Mishpat 70. Shut Shevet Ha-Levi 10:268).

Movies about the Expulsion
Q: Should one watch movies about the Expulsion from Gush Katif?
A: It is forbidden to read books which stir up inclinations. Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 307:16. This includes the inclination to hate, and applies all the more so to movies.