Shut SMS #77

Rabbi Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Mourner at Brit Milah
Q: Is it permissible for a mourner to attend a Brit Milah?
A: Yes, but without the festive meal (Pnei Baruch 20:23).

Doubtful Debt
Q: What is the law if I am in doubt whether I paid a debt, but I think that I did?
A: You are exempt, but it proper to check with the person to whom you owed the money.

Immodest Clothing Donation to a Gemach
Q: Is it permissible to donate immodest clothing, such as pants, to a Gemach? It is possible that a woman would wear them under a skirt, although it is not certain.
A: It is permissible. Regarding the prohibition of "Do not place a stumbling block before the blind" (Vayikra 19:14), we "tolim" (literally "hang" on the assumption) that a person will act in the proper way (Mishnah Shevi'it, end of chap. 5).

Singles
Q: Is helping singles get married important, like Eretz Yisrael?.
A: Certainly.

Prayer
Q: I am a woman and I have a very difficult time davening from a siddur. When I am forced to do so, my Kavanah is very minimal. Does prayer such as this have any value?
A: Yes, it has value. You should daven part of it, according to your strength (Shut Ha-Rashba 1:423).

Engagement Ring
Q: My parents bought me a ring, which looks like an engagement ring, as a present. People say that I should exchange it, since it is preventing me from getting married.
A: Nonsense.

Laws of Sacrifices and the Temple
Q: Should Cohanim start learning the Laws of Sacrifices and the Temple?
A: There are other subjects which take precedence (Li-Netivot Yisrael 1, 23).

"May his name be blotted out"
Q: Is it permissible to say "May his name be blotted out" for an evil Jew for a policeman or soldier who expelled Jews?
A: It is forbidden. If a man dies childless, his wife must marry the brother of her deceased husband ("Yibum"). The Torah says that the reason for "Yibum" is so that "his name is not erased from Israel" (Devarim 25:6). But what should I care if his (the evil Jew's) name is erased? If I say "may his name and memory be blotted out," what is the problem if his name is erased from Israel? There is no halachah, however, which eliminates the need to perform "Yibum" for a sinning Jew (Shulchan Aruch, Even Ha-Ezer 157:3). This therefore means that I must be concerned that his name not be erased from Israel (In the name of the Sochachover Rebbe, the author of "Avnei Nezer").