Shut SMS #75

Rabbi Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Collecting a Debt
Q: I lent someone a lot of money. When I asked for it back, I found out that he has everything in his wife's name, and he therefore has nothing. Should I take pity of him?
A: You should certainly demand it. He has plenty and is being deceitful.

Tattoos
Q: If a Baal Teshuva has his entire body tattooed can he serve as the Shaliach Tzibur?
A: Yes, but he should cover himself with clothing or a Talit (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 53:5. See Shut Minchat Yitzchak 3:11).

Troubles
Q: How is it possible to love Hashem if bad things happen in life?
A: It is a complicated issue for a text message. See Mesilat Yesharim chap. 19 regarding loving Hashem with the parable of the doctor and army officer.

Kiddush for a Girl
Q: If a girl was born and her parents did not have a Kiddush for her will it be difficult for her to find a spouse?
A: No.

Prayer for Bad
Q: Is it permissible for me to pray for something bad to happen to another person if he ruined my life and did not apologize?
A: Yes, if it is impossible to remedy it by bringing him to a Bet Din.

Adopted Child and Mourning
Q: Is it permissible for an adopted child to sit Shiva for his adopted parents?
A: Is it not obligatory but certainly proper to do so (Sedei Chemed, Avelut 156).

Losing your Beshert
Q: Can a person lose his Beshert?
A: Yes, such as in the case that he is too choosy. There is also free choice in this matter. Shemoneh Perakim chap. 8.

Songs under the Chupah
Q: I heard that the Chief Rabbinate disqualifies Rabbis who sings songs under the Chupah? Why not rejoice?
A: The Chupah is the most joyous occasion and there is no need for additions. On the contrary, there is a need for seriousness and holiness.

A Star is Born (Israel's American Idol)
Q: Is it permissible to watch the TV show "A Star is Born" which presents a singing competition between new talent?
A: It is against all of our education which emphasizes good deals, proper character traits, Torah and mitzvot, justice and integrity, and not external behavior, lacking humility and modesty, which finds favor in other people's eyes.

Killer
Q: How can I comfort a friend who accidently killed someone? Can he atone?
A: This is too complex an issue for a text message. See my book: "Yemei Teshuvah."

Killing a Non-Jew
Q: Is it permissible to kill innocent non-Jews in order to save a Jewish captive?
A: Forgive me, life and death subject are too complex for text messages.