Shut SMS #74

Rabbi Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Rashbi's Grave
Q: I heard that it is uncertain whether the Rashbi is buried on Mt. Meiron. Is it true?
A: Although Rabbi Binyamin of Tudela and Rabbi Petachya do not mention it, the Arizal verified it.

Cousins
Q: Is it forbidden for cousins of the opposite gender to touch? Source?
A: Certainly. Rambam, Isurei Bi'ah 21:6.

Ya'ale Ve-Yavo
Q: I do not know if I said Ya'ale Ve-Yavo on Rosh Chodesh. Do I have to repeat the Shemoneh Esrei?
A: Yes, we assume you acted as you usually do (Mishnah Berurah 422:10).

Widow and Divorcee Covering her Hair
Q: Do a widow and divorcee still have to cover their hair?
A: Ha-Rav Moshe Feinstein has two Teshuvot where he writes that one may rely on the opinion that the obligation for a woman to cover her hair is a positive mitzvah and not a transgression, and one may therefore be lenient is an extenuating circumstance, such as one who cannot find a spouse because people think she is married because she covers her hair (Shut Igrot Moshe, Even Ha-Ezer 1:57 and 4:32 #4).

Borrowing Tefillin
Q: Is it permissible to borrow my friend's Tefillin without his permission?
A: If you are 100% certain that he would agree. Sometimes, it bothers people because of the sweat or another reason. Aruch Ha-Shulchan (14:11).

Tefillat Ha-Derech
Q: Is it permissible to me to add petitions into Tefillat Ha-Derech, such as save me from car accidents, drunks and traffic jams?
A: After reciting it.

Cohain's Wife
Q: Is it permissible for a Cohain's wife to visit Kever Rachel and other Kivrei Tzadikim (graves of the righteous), since perhaps she is pregnant with a boy?
A: It is permissible even if it is definitely a boy (Ha-Rav Yisrael Yaakov Fishcher).

Kivrei Tzadikim
Q: Is it permissible to leave Eretz Yisrael to visit Kivrei Tzadikim?
A: Rav Kook rules against doing so. End of Shut Mishpat Cohain. Visit our Forefathers and Foremothers in Maarat Ha-Machpelat and the graves of other righteous people here.

Bad Thoughts
Q: What should I do if bad thoughts pop into my mind?
A: It is not your fault. Think about something else. On the contrary, every time you think of something else, you fulfill a mitzvah (Mesilat Yesharim chap. 11).

Asking a Rabbi
Q: Is it permissible to ask a Rabbi a question even if I do not intend on following his position?
A: If you tell him up front that this is you intention.

Television on Shabbat
Q: In my house, they watch TV. What should I do?
A: If you have to be in the same room, turn your back to the TV.