Shut SMS #73

Rabbi Shlomo Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Greek Mythology
Q: Is there a problem in giving kids Greek Mythology to read?
A: Yes, it is full of nonsense and unethical behavior, with remnants of idol worship (Shut She'eilat Shlomo 4:167. See Chinuch Be-Ahavah vol. 1, pp. 320-341).

Artificial Insemination
Q: Is it permissible for a married woman to have Artificial Insemination?
A: If there is no other solution, it is permissible from a non-Jew (Shut Igrot Moshe, Even Ha-Ezer 1:10).

Lashon Ha-Ra
Q: I spoke Lashon Ha-Ra about someone but he does not know about it. Should I ask his forgiveness?
A: No. On the contrary, it will cause him pain. You should repent to Hashem. Rabbi Yisrael Salanter (see Chafetz Chaim, Hilchot Lashon Ha-Ra 4:12. Mishnah Berurah 606:3. Halichot Shlomo 1:3 #6).

Child Mourner
Q: I work with children affected by terror attacks. One youth, who was orphaned in a terrorist attack and is still in the period of mourning, has a cousin who is getting married. He wants to dance at the wedding. Is it permissible?
A: Yes, it is part of his rehabilitation.

Separate Money
Q: Can a married couple have different accounts and each equally pay for all expenses?
A: It is permissible. It is preferable to have everything joint, but it is permissible if there is a need.

Evil Eye
Q: I am succeeding in getting married, and I was told that I have the Evil Eye?
A: You don't have anything of the kind (Shut Igrot Moshe, Even Ha-Ezer 3:26. And see Gam Ani Odeca of Ha-Rav Gamliel Rabinovitch 2, 48 in the name of Ha-Rav Chaim Kanievski).

Drafted into a Combat Unit
Q: I want to be drafted into a combat unit, but I am afraid. What should I do?
A: It is a mitzvah to be drafted into a combat unit. There is nothing to fear. Serving in a combat unit is safer than traveling in a car – four times as many people are killed in car accidents than in combat units!

Honoring a Father who does not Recite a Blessing
Q: My father asked if I could bring him some food, but he does not wash "Netilat Yadayim" or recite a blessing?
A: It is forbidden on account of "Do not place a stumbling block before the blind," but it is a mitzvah to give food to the poor for Tzedakah (even if they do not recite a blessing), and all the more so to your father since you have a mitzvah to honor him (Mishnah Berurah 169:11).

Upside-Down Shoe
Q: Is there a problem with an upside-down shoe?
A: Superstition.

Female Musician
Q: Is it permissible for a female musician to play in a band before a mixed audience?
A: It is permissible on condition that the men do not stare at her.

Q: Is it permissible to try samples in the supermarket if I am certain that I will not buy them?
A: No, it is "Genivat Da'at – deceptive."