Shut SMS #66

Rabbi Shlomo Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Suffering
Q: Does lovingly accepting suffering mean that I cannot cry?
A: It is permissible to cry but you must believe that Hashem is sending them for our benefit (see Berachot 5a).

A Woman Learning Torah
Q: Can a woman learn Torah without reciting the blessings for learning Torah?
A: A woman is obligated to recite the blessings for learning Torah every day (Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 47:14).

Tachanun on Yom Ha-Atzmaut
Q: Who rules that we do not recite Tachanun on Yom Ha-Atzmaut against the great Rabbis of the generation including Ha-Rav Elyashiv?
A: The question is incomprehensible. Ha-Rav David Cohain told me that in his youth he davened at the Tiferet Bachurim shul and when they wanted to recite Tachanun on Yom Ha-Atzmaut, Ha-Rav Elyashiv did not allow it.

"Double-dating"
Q: Is it permissible to date for the purpose of marriage two men at the same time?
A: Certainly not. It is unethical. If there is an exceptional problem, you should ask a Rabbi.

Better Not to Have Been Created
Q: If it were better for man not to have been created, then why should we live and what is the purpose? Can I have sources?
A: In order to serve Hashem, and then it is good that we were created. See ibid. Eruvin 13, Tosafot and Rashi, Ein Yaakov and Mesilat Yesharim chap. 3.

Modesty in a Clothing Store
Q: Is it permissible for a husband to accompany his wife into a women's clothing store?
A: It is immodest. There are all types of women who may enter, and all the more so if there are women it will make them uncomfortable (see Gan Na'ul).

Kindness for a Non-Jew
Q: Should one perform a kindness for a non-Jew?
A: "His mercies are on all of His works" (Tehillim 145:9).

Difficult Mother
Q: I have a difficult mother and it is hard to me. What should I do?
A: Patience and flexibility. It is great practice of humility for your entire life (see Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah 240:8).

Palm Reading
Q: Is there any truth to palm reading?
A: It is nonsense.

Modesty
Q: Is it permissible to walk around an apartment with only male roommates dressed in only a little clothing?
A: Modesty is always required both when alone and at home. Kitzur Shulchan Aruch chap. 2.

Woman Receiving an Aliyah
Q: What should I do if the shul in which I daven calls up a woman for an aliyah?
A: Leave (Gittin 61a).

Stealing Drugs
Q: I stole my friend's drugs. Should I return them?
A: Return the money anonymously.

Modest Clothing
Q: I wear beautiful clothing at home for my husband. What should I wear out?
A: Clothing which does not draw the attention of others (see Gan Na'ul).