Shut SMS #58

Ha-Rav answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Q: I learn Torah with someone who is twice my age, and he has a different view of Torah scholars than I do. Should I continue to learn with him?
A: If it has an effect upon your view, then you should stop. (see Shut Ha-Radvaz 4:187)
Q: What is the blessing on quinoa?
A: Before "Ha-adama" and after "Nefashot."
Q: Does a reflector vest require Tzitzit?
A: No, it is not a garment.
Q: If it is Hashem's will that a person die, why do we cry?
A: Because we love him.
Q: I saw my father transgressing a mitzvah. Should I point it out to him?
A: Ask him if he wants to talk about it.
Q: I finally received a divorce after many years and despite the horrible behavior of my former husband. Is it appropriate to make a meal of thanksgiving?
A: Yes.
Q: Is it a mitzvah to give Tzedakah to everyone who asks?
A: If you are certain that they need the Tzedakah.
Q: What should one do with missionary literature?
A: Throw it in the garbage.
Q: Is it permissible for a man to go to a work out club which also has women?
A: Certainly not. Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 152:8.
Q: I saw two kids sneak on to the bus. What should I do?
A: Point out to them that they should pay. If they do not listen – inform the driver. It is for their own good.
Q: Do I have to forgive someone who hurt me?
A: If they placate you in an appropriate manner.
Q: I am in the middle of learning and my father sent me a text message. Should I answer?
A: Yes, instead of text messaging me.
Q: Is a Kippah with holes for style considered Kosher?
A: Yes, the essence is that it is big. Some say that it should cover the majority of the head, and the lenient position is that it is seen from all sides. (Shut Igrot Moshe Orach Chaim 1:1, Shut Yechaveh Daat 4:1. Shut Yaskil Avdi vol. 6 p. 292a)
Q: Are vitamin supplements considered like medicine on Shabbat and forbidden or like food and permissible?
A: They are forbidden like medicine. It is possible to take them before and after Shabbat. (Shemirat Shabbat Ke-Hilchata 34:20)
Q: Can one fulfill his obligation to recite a blessing by hearing someone else recite a blessing for him on the telephone?
A: No, one does not hear the person's actual voice but a reproduction. One should however recite “amen” as one would in the shul in Alexandria. (Sukkah 52a, Shut Minchat Shlomo 1:9, Shut Igrot Moshe Orach Chaim 4:91)
Q: Is it proper to wear a shirt with part of a Torah verse without Hashem's Name?
A: It requires two coverings to go into the bathroom. It is not proper. (Shut Tzitz Eliezer 16:30)
Q: What is the Torah source for the prohibition of men and women touching?
A: "Do not approach" (Vayikra 18:6. Sefer Ha-Chinuch 188).
Q: My brother is meeting a young woman for the purpose of marriage. He is very dominating. Should I tell her?
A: Certainly. (Kehillot Yaakov on Yevamot 60 #38)