We Don't Have Children

Question: We have been married for many years and do not have children. It causes us great sorrow which explodes into tension between us. What can we do?
Answer: This certainly causes great sorrow, and I am certain that you have done your utmost to try medical treatments. May Hashem bless you and we hope that you will soon have children. But there is no reason for it to create a separation between the two of you. On the contrary, it should cause you to strengthen your relationship against a common distress. It is not by coincidence that our forefathers and foremothers had fertility problems: Avraham and Sarah, Yitzchak and Yaakov and Rachel. There is an amazing midrash on the verse which states that Yitzchak prayed facing his wife (Bereshit 25:21). Our Rabbi explain that Yitzchak said: Master of the Universe, may all the children You give me be from this righteous woman. And Rivka said: Master of the Universe, may all the children You give me be from this righteous man (Midrash Rabbah). We are always together, through all situations, pleasant or less pleasant. We are together in happiness, we are together in hurt. Happiness brings us closer as does hurt. We will overcome all difficulties together.