Everything by Mutual Agreement

We are surprised: how did the great man Rabbi Akiva disappeared from his house for 12 years to go learn in yeshiva and leave his wife alone? The answer is simple: she wanted him to do so. Furthermore: she sent him there. She married him based on this condition. The proof: when he returned after 12 years, she said that if he asked her opinion, she would be happy if he went for another 12 years (Ketubot 62b-63a). We thus see that everything was based on mutual agreement.
In those days, the yeshivot were very far away, and the average student disappeared for six years, the weak ones for three years and the strong ones - like Rabbi Akiva – for 12 years. And everything was decided upon by mutual agreement.
It once happened that one student was deep in learning and forgot to go home at the agreed upon time. His wife waited and waited and cried. He then fell from the roof of the yeshiva and died. A tragic ending which puts things into perspective: one should devote their soul to learning Torah, but only through mutual agreement. And one should commit himself to Torah at the expense of many other important things, but only through mutual agreement. You are not the only decision maker, you need to decide together.