Shut SMS #26

Rabbi Shlomo Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Q: I feel that there is no love between my parents, and it hurts me. If I point it out to my mother I think she will be angry. What should I do?
A: It is worthwhile to ask your mother and talk about it.
Q: When I was a kid I stole 20 shekels from a store and I now regret it. The store is long gone and I have no way of locating the owner. What should I do?
A: In a case such as this, you should give Tzedakah.
Q: I want to overcome my trait of anger. What should I do?
A: Read a lot of Mesillat Yesharim.
Q: I want to live in Eretz Yisrael in every sense. What should I do?
A: In a spiritual sense, you should learn the Torah. In a physical sense, you should live in the Land, help build and develop the Land, and guard the Land by serving in the army.
Q: How does one acquire a friend?
A: A friendship is created gradually building a connection, step-by-step.
Q: Is it permissible to enter a monastery or church during a trip?
A: Certainly not. It is idol worship.
Q: There are those who hold that Torah learning protects the State more than the army?
A: We need both. Not one without the other. See Niddah 70b.
Q: Is it permissible to daven on a plane in the aisle when it bothers others who need to pass?
A: One should not fulfill this mitzvah when as a result it bothers others. This is also the ruling on Ha-Gaon Ha-Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv and Ha-Gaon Ha-Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach that we should not daven with a minyan on a plane if it bothers other.
Q: Is it permissible to learn Yoga?
A: The technique is permissible since it is like other types of relaxation, but not the faith behind it which is based on idol worship.
Q: If I am in the middle of davening and my Rabbi or father enters. Do I stand in his honor?
A: Yes. One should fulfill this mitzvah even in the middle of davening.
Q: Is it permissible for me to nurse my baby where there are people if I am covered?
A: Yes, you should be on the side as much as possible.
Q: Is there truth in telling the future through tarot cards?
A: Nonsense. It is forbidden because of "Do not engage in sorcery" (Vayikra 19:26).
Q: Does one have to wash "netilat yadayim" when leaving the bathroom?
A: No, it is an act of piety. It is enough to wash your hands.
Q: Is it permissible for a woman to ride a bike?
A: Yes, with a modest skirt.
Q: Is there a source for not buying anything before birth?
A: No, it is superstition.
Q: Is it permissible for a mourner during Shiva to take a shower?
A: Quickly and with lukewarm water if he is suffering.
Q: Is it permissible to carry a bus pass on Shabbat to use after Shabbat?
A: No, it is muktzeh and preparing on Shabbat for a weekday.