Shut SMS #19

Rabbi Shlomo Aviner answers hundreds of text message questions a week. Some appear in the parashah sheets "Ma'ayanei Ha-Yeshu'ah" and "Olam Ha-Katan." Here's a sample:
Q: Is it permissible to go to a standup comedy night during Sefirat Ha-Omer?
A: No. It is forbidden all year because of "moshav leitzim - frivolity," and all-the-more-so now.
Q: I am about to be married and I had a dream that my grandparents told me that I should not get married. What should I do?
A: It does not mean anything. Get married. If you are concerned, recite the "Hatavat Chalom" (improvement of a dream) which is printed in the siddur before three friends.
Q: I saw an extremely immodest picture on the cell phone of one of my Rabbis. I am shocked and do not know what to think about him.
A: He is righteous, but not an angel – a person is judged by the majority of his deeds.
Q: Should an "Oleh Chadash" (new immigrant) say Shehechiyanu on receiving his Tehudat Zehut (identity card)?
A: Yes. Wonderful news!
Q: A person who learns Torah and performs mitzvot but speaks Lashon Ha-Ra, do his merits remain with him when he arrives in heaven?
A: His merits will be transferred to the person/s about whom he spoke ill. Chovot Ha-Levavot.
Q: To my distress, I spoke Lashon Ha-Ra about someone and that person do not know about it. How do I fix it?
A: Fix it with those who heard.
Q: Is it permissible to eat fish with cheese?
A: Some are strict, but it is permissible.
Q: I truly want to wake up early, but I do not succeed.
A: Use the aid of a radio or friend. Exert yourself! The beginning is difficult, but it will get easier after five times.
Q: At which holy place should a groom daven on the day of his wedding?
A: The Kotel.
Q: Is it permissible to write a verse from the Tanach on the glass which will be broken at the wedding?
A: No. It is erasing a verse.
Q: Should one engage in "Hitbodedut" (secluded meditation) and what does one do?
A: "Cheshbon Ha-Nefesh" - personal accounting. Mesilat Yesharim, chap. 3.
Q: A father of an extremely sick child said that he is willing to be in the child's place. Does he need to do anything or will heaven not judge him for something said in a time of pain?
A: He spoke well and does not need to worry at all.