Honor Her More than Yourself

It is not enough that you honor your wife – you must honor her more than you honor yourself. This is what our great rabbi, the Rambam, writes. But why? Aren't I equal to her?! No, while she is equal to you, she is different than you. She therefore has different needs from you and different areas of specialization. For example, it is possible that you are satisfied with two pairs of pants and four of the same shirts. But you have to understand that her needs are different. When she stands in front of a closet which is packed full of clothes and declares: "I have nothing to wear! I have to buy something" – you have to respect her feelings and understand that they come from a different emotional structure and different needs which you simply do not have. And this is true is many areas - you and her have different needs. You are equal, but different.